It started when I sat down with my wife Katie and we began to search for answers to our weight problems. We first identified what each of us hoped to gain and why being slimmer would give us that. It was amazing, but we really didn’t aspire to anything that remarkable. The thing Katie wanted most was to have more energy for the kids. She also wanted to lose the embarrassment she felt being in her bathing suit.
Most of all I hoped to dress well again. I had become completely fed up with ‘fat boy’ clothes! And for health reasons I wanted to be able to run up the stairs at home and not feel sick!
We realised in addition that our self-image has its part to play in how we physically look. Unfortunately, the larger we grow, the less we seem to care for ourselves. It’s very common to see weight reduction as the solution to a happy life. I want you to know how much I understand this thought process. Here are some observations…
Medical research tells us that our sub conscious mind has no scope to differentiate between actual reality, and perceived reality. And so our conscious mind receives its most predominant thoughts – real or not real. Repeat a concept often enough and that surfaces as the overriding idea.
Just how long have we been re-affirming the concept of how fat we are? So instead of telling our subconscious what we don’t want, we should tell it what we DO want.
It’s also important to think about all the great things being slimmer will mean. And so each of us thought of activities and things that would be enhanced by being slimmer. We came up with – Going for walks in the country, flirting, great sex, going for a swim without embarrassment, playing with the kids, fun on the beach, dancing, cycling and greater happiness.
We thought next about the holidays – summer at the beach feeling good in our swimwear. People around us glanced admiringly. Our confidence rocketed! Life became a breeze.
Consequently, the weight came off (though not too much…) We look at each other every day now and smile – you will too when you see how far you’ve come.
